Is it really final???

Watching stars at night, I saw your face
When I’m alone, I heard your voice
I’m on my bed, thinkin’ of you
How are you… How do you do.

You love me so much, that’s what you told me
But behind your ways, you’re always leaving without trace
How could I forget you after so many tears?
I knew I would, ‘passing through that mending years.
You said there’s nothing wrong with you
Then why am I feelin’ so blue?
Did I hurt you?
Please tell, so I’ll know.

I long for you intensely
Loneliness seeped through my soul deeply
You owned my heart already
But it seemed that shallow love is what you gave me.
Sorry if I’ve been so cruel
And thought that you’d love me eventually
Sorry if I kept those insanity
And if ever compromised you loving me.

I will remember the things we had
Across the miles I could still see your humble and loving eyes
Thank you for the smile and sweet memories
Just to restore this broken piece, you took the risk.
You knew how much I wanna keep you
I tried to give in and promised that my love won’t end
But then space is really what we need
And I guess letting go was the best thing that I ever did.

I said goodbye for several times
But deep inside it’s just a lie
It’s hard making this feeling die
But it’s a must, this will be the final... Goodbye.

Posted in my Yahoo 360 last March 27, 2006 - 05:17am (PST)

Hi! 'just wanna share it... =)

Source: California Psychics

It can happen to anyone. Over time, without careful attention, sex can become routine and then fade from a relationship… sometimes altogether. Consider that the average American couple has sex once a week. How does that bode for the slightly below average, or worse, those on the bottom of the fulfilling sex life scale?

While doing it less than ten times a year is the "technical" qualification for a celibate relationship, the reality is, if you're concerned about the infrequency of sex in your pairing, it's time to address the issue before it gets a whole lot harder - or even becomes too late.

Sex is relationship glue
First things first. Sex is a normal, healthy part of human existence despite societal hang-ups and prudishness. Intolerance for sexuality, sexual desire and sexual preference is ignorant and shows a fundamental lack of understanding of the human body. That doesn't mean anyone who has hang ups about sex is bad or wrong - we live in a culture that simultaneously demonizes and glorifies all things sex-related. As such, it's no wonder so many of us are confused about the acceptability of our urges and what sex should truly be!

But if you want to have a healthy relationship - one that is satisfying for both partners and complete in its scope (read: intimacy) - it's time to face your issues and work through them - or move on. Sex is the glue that holds a romantic love relationship together. Period. Take it away and when the tough times come (and they will), it'll be a whole lot harder to stand up together and power through them. It'll also be a lot harder to remain amicable and avoid resentment. We're human beings and when we're healthy, we need sex. It's actually good for us.

Sex free
So what do you do if you're in a sex-free relationship? As with most things in life, it's crucial to come to a place of understanding. If you look back over the time you've been with your partner, can you place where the sex stopped? Was it simple and clear cut (we did it on our anniversary… and that was three months ago). Or was it gradual (it started dwindling months ago until it just became awkward to start again)? Was it the result of sexual differences (my partner wanted me to do x or I thought we should try y), or the product of a series of stressful situations (we were going through a rough time financially, with the kids, a sick relative, etc.)? Did one or the other of you decide you "just didn't feel like it," until that became the status quo?

The sex stopped here...
You should also consider how long you've been together. Monotony between the sheets is pretty common in a long-term relationship or marriage - and the investment is such that it's worthwhile to put in the effort to fix things. But if you've only been together a few months and you find yourself looking elsewhere or not looking at all, how much is it really worth to turn things around? And can that even be done? Is it possible you're just not the right match? It's hard to face, but it happens. Chemistry is complicated and you can't beat yourself up for that. You can simply (or not so simply) address the issue and move on - while it may be tough in the moment, when you're in a successful, physically intimate and fulfilling relationship down the road, you'll know you made the right decision.

It takes two
Whatever answers thoughtful analysis brings you, it's also vital not to blame yourself or your partner. Relationships are a two-way street and both of you have allowed this behavior (or lack of it) to continue. That said, accepting responsibility for your role in the situation may do a lot toward remedying it if that's what you both want to do. If you can approach your partner with an honest apology for your part in letting things get to this point, they're going to be more likely to reciprocate -and to work with you to get things back on track in the bedroom. However, understand this: if you're not having sex, the problems most likely extend beyond the closed doors of your boudoir.

While it's possible that your sex-free zone has arisen out of physical problems (if you or your partner are experiencing prolonged diminished desire, it's worthwhile to speak to a doctor), these situations often present a chicken or the egg conundrum. In other words, did you stop feeling desire first or did something happen to decrease your desire?

No matter the situation, only you can decide if or when it's time to leave. Many sexual problems can be resolved with effort and dedication. There are some schools of thought that say fake it 'til you make it and the desire will come back. How you choose to handle it is up to you. But remember this: accepting less than what you want in a relationship sends the sign that you're willing to settle. And a lifetime without sex is a whole lot more compromise than it's worth.